Mother, Wife, Business Woman and Blogger: Doing It All

I usually don’t get too personal on this blog, but when a recent questions was posed to me, I felt like sharing it with you all. I was recently asked "You are so together, how do you do it all? What’s your secret". These questions are in reference to me being a mother, wife, business woman and blogger. The simple answer is: I don’t. The truth is I may look like I have it all together, but I don’t. My to-do list is a mile long and growing. My house is rarely spotless. And I still have a lot of goals I’d like to achieve with my business and my blogs. I fee like there are never enough hours in the day and not enough time to spend with my loved ones. I have learned a few things along the way that have helped me find a little bit of a balance in all of the craziness of raising kids, maintaining a household, working online from home and most recently going back to work outside the home.

Keeping it together

Tips for keeping it together:

Stay focused on the task at hand. I’ve found that multitasking is not always so efficient . There were times when I would have 2 or 3 blog posts pulled up, writing them, editing photos for each one, emailing businesses, engaging on various social media platforms, etc…not a good idea. Tackle one thing at a time, so you don’t get distracted and end up working all day only to feel like you didn’t accomplish anything. I, personally, know how hard it can be to stay focused on something when there is a 2 year old running around, needing a drink, a diaper change, or a cuddle (I mean who can resist a toddler cuddle?), but knocking out one household chore or work-related task at a time can get more things done. 
Don’t be afraid to ask for help sometimes. My oldest child, D, has chores. The hubby and I take turns cooking and cleaning up the kitchen. And lets face it sometimes we all need a break, this is when I send the kids to grandma’s, they love going and she loves having them, I am very blessed with a mother who helps me out with my kids and let’s them spend the occasional weekend at her house when I am feeling overwhelmed with all the things that need to be done.
Remember what is truly important. 10 years from now is it really going to matter that you responded to that email right away or that you folded the laundry as soon as the dryer buzzed? What about if you sat down and read your child their favorite story, would that matter in 10 years? Family. If you never make time for them, what’s the point?
-Take time for yourself. Even if it is just a few minutes here and there, you need "me time" to rejuvenate.

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I don’t have a picture perfect life, if there is such a thing. My kids aren’t perfect angels all the time (see above photo). And while I would never want my life to be filmed for the world to see like Tia and Tamera’s reality show (which is starting soon, but more about that later on in the post), I love my life and I feel truly blessed, through the ups and downs, the trials and tribulations, it is what it is and I have my family by my side.

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Taking a peak into the lives of other real moms has helped me realize that nothing is completely perfect all of the time and sometimes it helps to watch and be reminded of that. Tia and Tamera are mom’s, wives and business women themselves, who don’t always have it all together. So, if you need a reminder that you aren’t the only one tune in to Season 3 of Tia and Tamera, it starts this Sunday, July 14th at 8/7C on Style.


See behind the scenes pictures here.

In celebration of the new season starting Style is having an Instagram Sweepstakes from July 9-14, in which you share a photo of you and your kids(s), hubby, bff or pet for a chance to win a 00 shopping spree!

Thanks to The Style Network for sponsoring today’s discussion.

2013 Best of Fros on the Fourth Baby Big Hair Giveaway


Yesterday we posted a little recap of some hairstyles we’ve done for the 4th of July the past couple of years. This 4th of July we want YOU to submit your Fros on the Fourth Photos for a chance to win a Baby Big Hair Tee!

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Fros on the Fourth aka National  Afro Day, founded by BlkOnyx488 on Long Hair Care Forum to encourage naturals to rock out “fro” styles and/or paraphernalia to celebrate the freedom and beauty of natural hair on Independence Day!

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Baby  Big Hair presents the “Best of  Fros On The Fourth” kids natural BIG HAIR contest!! Celebrating the freedom of kid’s natural hair    everywhere, Baby Big Hair is calling for all  “frotos” in this one of a kind contest.  Let your Baby Big Hair celebrate Independence Day aka Nation Fro Day by proudly displaying their BIG HAIR! Share you "frotos’ with us via for a chance to win the ever so popular "Yes… It’s All Mine" Tee, sold exclusively at the Baby Big Hair Online Store. And for a shot a winning the grand prize!

CONTEST    DATE:  July    4th –    6th    -    Winners will be announced 7/7 and grand prize winner on 7/8.
CONTEST    TYPE: Instagram "Froto" Share
Prize:  One  (1)  “Yes, It’s All Mine”  Tee Shirt
*available in 12/24 Month Onesie, 2/4T, Girls XS   –   XL (some    limited    colors), and Youth Classic sizes S-XL
GRAND PRIZE: $50 GAP Gift Card


  • Follow @babybighairlife and @brookeuhm on Instagram
  • Post your Baby Big Hair’s July 4h Froto with the @brookeuhm and @babybighairlife   
    handles and hashtag #bestfroson4thBBH

  • The contest will run from July 4th thru July 6th. A winner will be chosen by Untrained Hair Mom on July 7th. The grand prize winner will be chosen by Baby Big Hair on July 8th.

    Please note:


    The Tee-shirt portion of this contest is over and a winner for our blog has been chosen. It was super hard to choose just one winner out of all the adorable entries submitted to us on Instagram. So, I called on D and Baby Boy to help! They each chose their favorite photo and I used to chose 1 of the 2 photos they selected… and the winner of one Baby Big Hair “Yes..It’s All Mine” Tee is….

    frowinner collage

    Congrats! This photo will be entered into the Grand Prize pool for a chance to win a $50 GAP gift card!

4th of July Hairstyle Ideas + Bee Mine Sale

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4th of July Hairstyle Ideas

A couple of years ago we went all out on a festive hairstyle for the fourth of July, complete with red, white and blue beads :) See our fireworks hairstyle for instructions and more photos. Last year we participated in “Fro’s on the Fourth” with 2 pig tail poofs (see more photos here). Not sure what we will end up doing this year.

What are your hair plans? Rockin’ the fro this fourth of July? Whatever you decide please share your pics with us on facebook, instgram (using @brookeuhm and/or #untrainedhairmom) or twitter!

Bee Mine Sale

Our absolute favorite natural hair care line, Bee Mine Products (see our many reviews on these wonderful products from over the years here) is having a HUGE 4th of July Sale.
Sale Details: Starting at midnight EST Wednesday, July 3rd through Saturday July, 6th at 11:59 pm you can save 20% on purchases over $20 by using checkout code UTHM4 at Take advantage of this deal and stock up while you can!


I hope everyone has a great week and a safe and happy 4th of July!

Untrained Hair Mom

ProFolla Silk Giveaway

That’s right folks, another giveaway! Register for a chance to win a ProFolla Silk® Hair Products set – a $99 Value!!  A total of three winner will be randomly selected.

You Get…

  • ProFolla Silk® Moisture Shampoo & Conditioner for extreme hydration to replenish lost moisture, reduce breaking, reduce dryness and add brilliant shine and smoothness!
  • ProFolla Silk® Growth Shampoo & Conditioner to maximize hair growth and strength. Natural botanical formula of over 17 extracts stimulate scalp circulation and encourage new and faster hair growth, increase strength and provide phenominal humidity resistance!
  • ProFolla Silk® Hair Nourishment Vitamins to supplement your diet with advanced B-complex vitamins, minerals and amino acids to improve sheen, smoothness and add strength to weak, brittle or dull hair!

Giveaway Contest Rules: Enter your name and email address in the Rafflecopter form below to register; One entry per person…but, there are lot’s of ways to win!! It’s a fun contest and after you register you “unlock” lot’s of ways to increase your chances of winning! See point values after registering! One winner will be randomly selected among Giveaway entries. The more tasks you perform, the better the odds of winning. Winner information will be verified before award.

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Disclosure: This giveaway is hosted by ProFilla Silk. This is a paid promotion Untrained Hair Mom is not responsible for winner selection, notifications or prize fulfillment.

Cornrow Hairstyle Tutorial

Criss Cross Over Cornrow Hairstyles

Both of these cornrow hairstyles are similar and basically start off the same way. Your parts should resemble a pie or pizza.

hair parting diagram

criss cross cornrow hairstyle

(For steps 1-3 refer back to the hair parting diagram above)
Step 1: Part hair in four sections. (front to back, ear to ear) clip each section to keep them separate

Step 2: starting with the right front section and from the center point, I parted diagonal so that I had two triangles.

Step 3: I then split those two triangles in half from the center point making 4 triangles in that 1 section. Make sure you keep the 4 triangles separate.

Step 4: starting w/ the 2 triangles at the top make a set of criss crossed cornrows (if you’re not sure how to do that see our criss cross cornrow tutorial) going to the center of the head, w/ the bottom two make 2 regular cornrows going to the center of the head.

Step 5: repeat steps 2 & 3 on the left front section. Once top portion is complete, secure w/ an ouchless band.

Step 6: untie back right section and split into 4 triangles like we did on the top and just cornrow downward.

Step 7 repeat on the other side and accessorize as you like.

girls cornrow hairstyle

(For steps 1-3 refer back to the hair parting diagram above)
Step 1: Part hair in four sections. (front to back, ear to ear) clip each section to keep them separate

Step 2: starting with the right front section and from the center point I parted diagonal so that I had two triangles.

Step 3: I then split those two triangles in half from the center point making 4 triangles in that 1 section. make sure you clip the 4 triangles separate. (as shown in the diagram above)

Step 4: Make 2 sets of criss-crossed cornrows going to the center of the head in 3 of the sections(top, bottom left). with the bottom right section
make two sets of criss-crossed cornrows going downward.

Step 5: secure the cornrows going to the center into a bun on the top of the head. Accessorize as you like!


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Don’t forget our Bee Mine readers discount code, get 10% off top notch natural hair products from shampoo to styling aids and everything in between. Use checkout code UTHMFALL on their website.

Pantene Truly Natural Review

If you’ve been around the hair care world at all you are probably familiar with the term “PJ” or “product junkie”. A product junkie is one who, even though they have their favorites and staple products, can’t help but try new products occasionally out of curiosity. When I heard about Pantene’s Truly Natural line I was curious and had to give it a try! (Yes, I am a self proclaimed Product Junkie).

Pantene Truly Natural Review

There are 5 products in the Pantene Truly Natural Collection:

    • Clarifying Shampoo
    • Deep Conditioner
    • Co-Wash Cleansing Conditioner
    • Defining Curls Custards
    • Shine Serum with Argan Oil

The shampoo in this series is thick and creamy, I was pleasantly surprised by its texture and ability to cleanse without stripping the hair. It does contain sulfates, but didn’t seem to dry her hair out. Overall I like this shampoo, but plan to err on the side of caution and only use it once a month or so for clarifying. Both conditioners are thick, creamy and silky in texture, they are decent conditioners both with a little slip, I do prefer those with a little more slip for an easier detangling process. The defining custard is also thick and creamy in texture, I used this product for a wash n go on D and had good results (photo’s below). The product defined her curls and left them soft and bouncy…none of that stiff and sticky feeling that we dislike so much. There was an itsy bit of frizz, but it happens. The serum I actually tried on mine and D’s hair and is mine now. I love it. It leaves my hair so soft, silky and shiny but not oily and greasy. I love that it is thicker than just plain argan oil, so it doesn’t drip or run as easily.  I do prefer to use just straight argan oil in D’s hair though, another reason I jacked the serum for myself. With a fresh clean scent, these products smell great… D says they smell like flowers (and she loves flowers!).

On to the results and photo’s (if you’d like to see a photo of D’s natural hair with no product in it for comparison click here) …

    I washed D’s hair using the Pantene Truly Natural Clarifying Shampoo, I decided to try out the Co-wash condish as well, then followed with the Truly Natural deep conditioner. I used my fingers and a wide tooth shower comb to detangle her hair in the shower. Once she was out I added some of our usual moisturizer, I followed that up with the Truly Natural Shine Serum, then proceeded to rake the Defining Curls Custard through her hair with my fingers.

Pantene Natural lineI let her hair completely air dry:

Pantene Truly Natural
Pantene Natural

I pulled her hair onto a loose bun and covered in with her satin sleep bonnet. The next morning I took it down and here are the results:

Pantene Naturals

Overall, I found the line ok, I do prefer to use products with more natural ingredients. They do contain coconut oil and argan oil, which I love and conveniently the Pantene Truly Natural line is readily available at Wal-Mart and other local retail stores with products in the natural series starting at $4.99…not bad at all.

Giveaway Time!
Win the entire set of either the Pantene Truly Natural or the Pantene Truly Relaxed products (one set, winner’s choice)!

To be entered to win simply:
-Leave a comment below telling me which set you’d like to win (Natural or Relaxed) – (if you choose the Truly Natural series, let me know which product you want to try most, I’m curious)!
-Be sure to enter your correct email address on the comment form, so I can contact you if you win!
-This giveaway will run from June 3 – June 10, the winner will be chosen randomly.

Updated 6/11/2013:
The giveaway portion has ended and a winner was randomly selected using the random number generator. The #12 was selected, so the 12th comment left on the post is the winner! Congrats Lakisha C!

pantene winner

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls Collective, and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

Lily and Beads Giveaway

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We love accessorizing our hairstyles here at Untrained Hair Mom. We like beads, ballies, clips and bows. For this reason I am so excited to announce our newest sponsor Lily & Beads. Lily & Beads has a variety of fun, unique and pretty hair accessories. Headbands, flowers, beads, ballies… you name it they’ve got it!

Lily & Beads owner and founder, April, shares with us why she decided to open her accessories shop.

"We brought home our daughter from Ethiopia in 2010.  I had no idea what I was doing when it came to her hair (thankfully it was short) so I hit the internet to try and figure things out.  I found some great sites but discovered that when it came to finding the fun stuff like beads and barrettes there was nothing in my area.  So, I decided to start Lily and Beads."

April has put together a wonderful gift pack for one lucky Untrained Hair Mom reader!

lily beads hair accessories

Included in this giveaway pack is:
Turquoise Flower Headband
Purple Flower w/ Jeweled Center
Green Chiffon Flowers
Pink Assorted Bands
Pink & Clear Ballies
Pink Glow in the Dark Beads
Orange Tonal Beads- Large
Berry Beads
Pastel Daisy Barrettes
Multi Colored Bow Barrettes

Submit your entries on the Rafflecopter form below. For the photo submission option simply send in a favorite photo of your child’s "Accessorized Hair", this can be a photo of any hairstyle with accessories (beads, ballies, bows, anything!) include name/nickname and age of child. Photos will be watermarked, attached to the Lily & Beads Giveaway Banner, and shared on the Untrained Hair Mom FB fanpage. Send photos to with subject line: "Lily & Beads Giveaway"

This giveaway is open to residents of the US only and will run from May 27-June 6 .

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Qoileez! Accessory Giveaway

I came across a unique item not long ago that I couldn’t wait to share with my lovely Untrained Hair Mom readers. Qoileez are a flexible plastic accessory that can be used in the hair, on pencils/pens, knitting needles and pretty much anything you want to accessorize.

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Qoileez! are pretty nifty little items, they are about in inch long, they are made of soft plastic and fairly easy to apply to the hair and other things. They come in lots of pretty colors, too!


So, who is ready to win some Qoileez!? We are giving away 2 packs of 7 count Qoileez to 2 different winners. Each winner will receive 2 – 7 count packs of Qoileez! Leave a comment below telling us what you would do with your Qoileez , then enter on the Rafflecopter giveaway form. Good Luck!

You can see all the Qoileez!  color, design and pricing options on their website.

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